Hello my friend! You read it right, I shaved my head on January 8th, 2024. I had been considering it for about 3 months, but I only told my husband and a couple friends. So for everyone else in my life itās been a huge surprise. I havenāt posted any photos of myself on social media, because I wanted to enjoy the real life reactions from my friends and family as much as possible. Itās so fun when my friends notice. It takes them a split second to see Iām different, and then they just freak out (in a good way!) Some people say absolutely nothing, but most tell me they love it and that I look beautiful.
Itās always nice to receive compliments, but I didnāt do it because I thought it would look good. I did it because my hair was annoying me, especially now in the summer. My hair was always getting in my way, feeling hot, heavy, and falling out! One day I had the urge to shave it all off. Iāve done it before, about 17 years ago. It felt great.
But even though Iāve done it before, it took 3 months to work up the courage to actually do it. There were two little voices battling in my mind:
Voice 1: āWhat will people think? Will I look bad?ā
Voice 2: āEh, who cares what people think?ā
Voice 1: āYeah, but what about my ālookā as my online brand? People are so used to me having long hair. Is that a bad business move?ā
Voice 2: āItās just hair. The most important thing is to be yourself. People will adapt.ā
Voice 1: āBut what if Iām notā¦ pretty?ā
Voice 2: āWhy do you need to be pretty? Do you really think being pretty makes your life better?ā
That was my āaha momentā. I know deep down that my friends, family and fans donāt love me because of my looks. They love me because Iām me.Ā
You may know that I used to struggle a lot with self confidence in every area of life, including physical appearance. For many years, I truly thought I was I ugly. I used affirmations to retrain my brain. I used the affirmation āI am beautiful inside and outā a LOT. I said it so many times that I came to believe it. These last few years, it hasn't been a challenge anymore for me to look in the mirror and love what I see.Ā
But if I had no hair, would I still believe it?Ā
I wanted to prove to myself that Iām not attached to my looks, and that no matter what, I AM beautiful inside and out.Ā
Sebastian (and Shasta and Nuni) shaved his head too!
Rant time
Our society puts FAR too much pressure on physical appearance, especially for women. I remember as a little girl, I worried about my looks. I wondered, āWill I be pretty when I grow up?ā I didnāt care about being smart or successful or happy. I just wanted to be pretty.
The media celebrates external beauty above all, especially for women. They donāt celebrate being kind, being smart, being braveā¦ and I find that sad. I want that to change in my lifetime. This was another reason that pushed me to shave my head. I want to be an example for women and girls - to show them you can be happy, successful, and yes, beautiful - without following the traditional path the media has set for us.
I feel SO GOOD with a buzz cut. My hair doesnāt bother me at all anymore. It doesnāt get in my way. I donāt have to spend ANY time on it. I love it. I donāt know if Iāll ever go back to having long hair. And although I think I look "better" with long hair, I just don't care. I feel good. That's more important to me.
17 years ago when I shaved my head for the first time, my friend Joy introduced me to a song by India Arie called "I Am Not My Hair". I just posted a video of me singing the chorus with my "new look". Watch it here, and if you haven't subscribed to my channel yet, will you hit that subscribe button for me? THANK YOU!
Thanks for reading š I love you, no matter what kind of hair you have (or don't have!)
Lindsay